Insight of the Fortnight: Assertiveness
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Assertive is an expression of being polite and firm as well. Assertiveness is your being positive without any kind of pressure; and when pressure comes it becomes aggressive. An aggressive person achieves success on one’s defined target but loses heavily on other areas of life. While being assertive is a balanced gain. You maintain the relevant importance of all what is important to you in your life. Also, when you are assertive then others find it difficult to challenge you. You are gradually moving towards the smooth journey towards your targeted success. The opposition if any, starts disappearing because you are assertive.

Learning through Humor
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After the successful completion of first year, the management of a new school decided to have an annual awards function. One new kind of award was created for this end-of-term ceremony, focused to generate inspiration within students: 100-percent attendance award. All went well until one particular young winner was called to stage. He was absent. 
Learning
At times, we are prepared well but in hurry ignore the last minute happenings. The way it is said that 11th hour is the most important; the same way in any planning and then implementation the last minute is perhaps the most important. Keep yourself updated rather upto the last moment and not even last minute.

Your Questions of the Fortnight
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Diego M, Oklahoma, USA
Winning Question: There are certain unpleasant situations or episodes we don’t want to talk about or bring into discussion to avoid further displeasure. But doing that for long in life, now I feel it was probably escapism, and I must learn to initiate discussion on those if it involves me and affects me, so I feel more in power. I feel you as a spiritual mentor would agree with me but at the same time I want you to guide me through it with vital tips so pleasure and courtesy is always maintained during such times.
Answer: Always discuss subject as a subject and not linked with any particular person. When we do not blame the other person and seek wisdom from the person on the subject then whole environment remains dignified and blissful.

Adolfo P., South America

Question
: I find most parents holding a complaining attitude towards their children most of the times especially when they don’t do things their way. What is the problem and what is the solution?
Answer:
Perhaps that’s called a generation gap. Parents no doubt are intelligent but the problem with them is that they see everything from their base, which is at least 20 years behind and does not match with the behavior of their children who are also behaving intelligent as per their present circumstances. Parents must formally step into the shoes of their children and then plan their behavior; with that the relationship will surely be blissful.

Sharon N, Namibia
Question: How does general negativity about things go away from one’s mind?
Answer:
General negativity is a confused state of mind. Focus must be to work on a positive strategy to plan for the future, which is only possible when one decides to live in 100% non-judgmental devotional acceptance about present and past as there is no other option. And all the negativity simply disappears.

Claudia J, New Jersey, USA

Question:
Do you believe as the law of the unconscious says that whatever you avoid will come back & the more you avoid it?
Answer:
I do not believe it. What comes to you can be just a matter of co-incidence only with something you had been avoiding. Just for example, I have been strongly avoiding hard drinks and it has never come back to me; I have been avoiding politicians in my friend circle and till date no politician approached me for friendship and so on.

Miah K, Utaha
Question: Spiritually speaking, have you ever read too much into someone’s actions and come to the wrong conclusion? What do you do thereafter?
Answer:
Too much is never a spiritual expression. When you over do it then wrong may be happening. It is always wisdom to observe somebody’s actions till those are relevant to you and that may not be even 100% as many parts of the action may not be relevant to you at all. And if wrong conclusion has happened in your mind then feel and say sorry to the concerned person.

Joyce W, Australia
Question:
In which cases, the no fight, no jokes and no complaints policy works while interacting with people at workplace or at home?
Answer:
When the other person is focusing to overpower you without any defined reason and just to prove one’s ego then it is better to be silent. You do not fight and the other person feels tired of one’s own attacks. Because in that relation the true love is missing and when love is missing then there is no relevance of normal acceptable human behavior in that particular relation.
 
 

Insight of the Fortnight: Assertiveness
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Assertive is an expression of being polite and firm as well. Assertiveness is your being positive without any kind of pressure; and when pressure comes it becomes aggressive. An aggressive person achieves success on one’s defined target but loses heavily on other areas of life. While being assertive is a balanced gain. You maintain the relevant importance of all what is important to you in your life. Also, when you are assertive then others find it difficult to challenge you. You are gradually moving towards the smooth journey towards your targeted success. The opposition if any, starts disappearing because you are assertive.

Learning through Humor
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
After the successful completion of first year, the management of a new school decided to have an annual awards function. One new kind of award was created for this end-of-term ceremony, focused to generate inspiration within students: 100-percent attendance award. All went well until one particular young winner was called to stage. He was absent. 

Learning: At times, we are prepared well but in hurry ignore the last minute happenings. The way it is said that 11th hour is the most important; the same way in any planning and then implementation the last minute is perhaps the most important. Keep yourself updated rather upto the last moment and not even last minute.
Your Questions of the Fortnight
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Diego M, Oklahoma, USA
Winning Question: There are certain unpleasant situations or episodes we don’t want to talk about or bring into discussion to avoid further displeasure. But doing that for long in life, now I feel it was probably escapism, and I must learn to initiate discussion on those if it involves me and affects me, so I feel more in power. I feel you as a spiritual mentor would agree with me but at the same time I want you to guide me through it with vital tips so pleasure and courtesy is always maintained during such times.
Answer: Always discuss subject as a subject and not linked with any particular person. When we do not blame the other person and seek wisdom from the person on the subject then whole environment remains dignified and blissful.

Adolfo P., South America

Question: I find most parents holding a complaining attitude towards their children most of the times especially when they don’t do things their way. What is the problem and what is the solution?
Answer: Perhaps that’s called a generation gap. Parents no doubt are intelligent but the problem with them is that they see everything from their base, which is at least 20 years behind and does not match with the behavior of their children who are also behaving intelligent as per their present circumstances. Parents must formally step into the shoes of their children and then plan their behavior; with that the relationship will surely be blissful.

Sharon N, Namibia
Question: How does general negativity about things go away from one’s mind?
Answer: General negativity is a confused state of mind. Focus must be to work on a positive strategy to plan for the future, which is only possible when one decides to live in 100% non-judgmental devotional acceptance about present and past as there is no other option. And all the negativity simply disappears.

Claudia J, New Jersey, USA

Question: Do you believe as the law of the unconscious says that whatever you avoid will come back & the more you avoid it?
Answer: I do not believe it. What comes to you can be just a matter of co-incidence only with something you had been avoiding. Just for example, I have been strongly avoiding hard drinks and it has never come back to me; I have been avoiding politicians in my friend circle and till date no politician approached me for friendship and so on.

Miah K, Utaha

Question: Spiritually speaking, have you ever read too much into someone’s actions and come to the wrong conclusion? What do you do thereafter?
Answer: Too much is never a spiritual expression. When you over do it then wrong may be happening. It is always wisdom to observe somebody’s actions till those are relevant to you and that may not be even 100% as many parts of the action may not be relevant to you at all. And if wrong conclusion has happened in your mind then feel and say sorry to the concerned person.

Joyce W, Australia

Question: In which cases, the no fight, no jokes and no complaints policy works while interacting with people at workplace or at home?
Answer: When the other person is focusing to overpower you without any defined reason and just to prove one’s ego then it is better to be silent. You do not fight and the other person feels tired of one’s own attacks. Because in that relation the true love is missing and when love is missing then there is no relevance of normal acceptable human behavior in that particular relation.