Power of planning breaks in life

Imagine driving a car which has no breaks. Rather it is impossible to even imagine. Feel the importance of breaks while driving a car. Breaks can help you avoid accidents. Breaks can help you stop wherever you want to, take the turn of your choice and also to rebuild your speed to reach your destination.

Breaks increase productivity and creativity. Working for long stretches without breaks leads to stress and exhaustion. Taking a break rejuvenates the energy of your mind, and helps you become more creative. Unfortunately, a lot of people tend to ignore the necessity of taking a break because they feel like there’s so much to achieve and that a break would just be a distraction.

Taking a break in a relationship doesn’t mean ending it. Like what it says, it’s a break only. A break that helps you and your partner have room for reflecting your thoughts and emotions; and for thinking about your future with or without your current partner.

Taking a career break can seem daunting at first, but it could be one of the best decisions you ever make. Career-wise, a break could help you to up-skill, find motivation, or even set you off on a whole new path. And you may be surprised to discover that career breaks are actually encouraged by some employers.

How do you know you need a break? Changes in your eating habits can be a good indicator of when you need to take a break. In some cases, you might notice yourself eating less than usual or skipping meals without realizing it. Or you might find that you’re eating more than usual and always on the hunt for a snack, even if you are not hungry.

How to build self-confidence?

Self confidence means self assuredness to do something. To build self confidence the first focus is to define multiple levels of your responsibilities. Work on each one, one by one because you can not focus on more than one at a time. Focus to gain 100% clarity on what you want to do and how to do that. It is important to gain clarity on the process. And then only start practicing till it becomes a working belief. For any activity to become a habit and thus your self confidence in doing that, you must practice at least for 28 days.

The second focus is to question your belief system and eliminate your self-limiting beliefs. Your belief system is based on your past experiences. The situation in the present can be similar but not the same. People normally are programmed to confuse memory or imagination with facts which is directly detrimental to your productivity and thus your self confidence.

The third focus is to learn to convert negative approaches into positive ones. Just for example worry is a negative expression while concern is the positive alternative to worry. You will be surprised that while using the word concern in your language you feel positive and committed.

And finally the need is to live as a self confident person at all times. Life is full of different situations. so accept every so called problem as a situation only. Gather correct and relevant information. Define all the pros and cons and clearly define the acceptable outcome. Then only develop the strategic planning to deal with the situation. Accepting and living in the present prepares you to face and manage each and every situation in your life.

How not to panic in difficult situations?

Panic is a sudden uncontrollable fear or anxiety, often causing the wildest thinking behaviour. Panic is a self generated war within. Panic is a sudden overpowering and unreasoning terror. Factors that may increase the risk of developing panic attacks include: major life stress, such as the death or serious illness of a loved one; a traumatic event, such as sexual assault or a serious accident.

Physical symptoms during a panic attack, such as a pounding or racing heart, sweating, chills, trembling, breathing problems, weakness or dizziness, tingly or numb hands, chest pain, stomach ache, and nausea. Anxiety may be happening in the back of your mind as you go about your day-to-day activities. Panic attacks, on the other hand, mostly involve severe, disruptive symptoms. During a panic attack, the body’s autonomous fight-or-flight response takes over. You can even say that mild panic is anxiety while severe anxiety is panic.

Why do people panic so easily? Often the first attacks are triggered by physical illnesses, major stressors, or certain medications. People who take on too many responsibilities may develop a tendency to suffer panic attacks. Individuals with post-traumatic stress disorder also show a much higher rate of panic disorder than other people.

How do you calm down from a panic attack? There are both curative and preventive measures. As a curative measure, breathe in as slowly, deeply and gently as you can, through your nose. breathe out slowly, deeply and gently through your mouth – close your eyes and focus on your breathing. As a preventive measure: make a priority list of your goals and related activities. Discard all those not relevant to you. Gain clarity of your goal – clear and specific – develop the strategic planning. Make this your working belief and you will never have any panic attacks in your future.

When to touch and when not to touch a person?


Touch is very touching as touching someone can be delicate and offensive as well. Just imagine that you are travelling in a train. And you see, that, the wallet of the person standing next to you falls down from his back pocket. You pick up his wallet, touch him on his shoulder and give it to him. Instantly, He is feeling grateful to you.

In the second situation. he is having a magazine which he has already read, you touch him on his shoulder and ask him if you can borrow his magazine. He feels awkward, his reaction is full of irritation, he looks into your eyes as if he will kill you.

Let’s take a new scenario. In the morning when the husband is about to go to the office, his wife hugs him and asks him to give her money for shopping. He feels agitated and pushes her away.

Whereas in a different scenario, On the stage the chief guest is giving an award to a lady participant. He shakes hands with her and gives her a hug, she indeed feels happy and honoured. So the big question is; when to touch and when not to touch a person?

The simple rule is: touch a person only when you give and never when you take. Touch when you give appreciation, award, regards, sympathy, blessings, support and so on but never when you have an intention to seek recommendations, money, support, appreciation and so on.

How to overcome Lockdown boredom?

Because of the ongoing programming during the last so many centuries people have been programmed to remain busy in one thing or the other in their life. When they have nothing else to do then they plan to meet their friends just to gossip. Because of this Covid pandemic and the lockdown, even going out to meet people is also banned because you want to live a healthy life. That means most of your entertaining systems have just collapsed. 

If you look back in your life, you had been talking and talking with others only. Ask yourself a question, “When did I talk with myself last time?” Perhaps the answer is NEVER. You wonder, “Can someone actually talk with oneself?” Talking with self is called contemplation where you are focused to feel a concept or a problem till its ultimate consequence. This indirectly helps you make wise decisions for living a successful life.

I am feeling bored has no solution because complaints have no solution. Complaint is a feeling, an attitude and is nonspecific. It is a must to convert your complaint into a problem which is attainable, measurable and is specific. Perhaps you need a shift in your approach towards living a smooth life. There are two focus areas. The first is entertaining yourself and that’s possible by having video calls with your friends, playing some indoor games and watching various programs or movies on tv. 

The second focus is to reinvent yourself. Lockdown time is to contemplate what all you have done in the past and what exactly you want to do in the future. Accordingly focus to develop your worth, redefine your strategic planning and develop speed to have a smooth success for all your future endeavours.

How to avoid a burnout during work from home?

Work from home was the hidden desire of many. Now Corona has made it mandatory and people are feeling the discomfort. In a way it is the dream come true. Culturally those people who owned the job responsibility are feeling much better than those who were dependent on instructions. Many people under the cover of responsibility only give instruction which makes the team directly dependent on the senior.

As the first step while working from home, learn to own the responsibility – share with your seniors the process – means how will you do the job. His confirmation to your process will give you a sense of confidence and there will be no burnout at all.

The second important reason for burnout while working from home is lack of discipline. The best benefit of working from home is saving on travel time and energy which must be taken as a blessing and not as taking undue liberty and doing those odd things which were never in your planned schedule. That saved travel time must be used to develop your worth.

How to overcome COVID depression?

Covid has shaken the whole world. During our school days we had learnt about epidemics but Covid has been expressed as a pandemic. An epidemic is a disease that affects a large number of people within a community, population, or region. A pandemic is an epidemic that has spread to multiple countries or continents across the world, really. Most of the people have lost their jobs or have incurred heavy losses in their business thus have entered a state of depression because of Covid.

What exactly is the cause of Covid depression? Though people have a misconception that depression is being experienced because of what has happened in the present, the fact is that the current situation is not responsible for depression. People by and large have been programmed to imagine negative consequences as a reaction to what has happened in the present moment. Their focus is to imagine death as a consequence because of Covid. What you have considered the consequences as the negative imagination is perhaps, just one option only.

To every situation there can be many options. A large number of the people who had been infected with Covid have recovered as well. The need is to focus on positive and constructive options as well. When you do that then positive and constructive resources also happen on your way to manage the situation. The moment you have defined the strategic planning towards the positive and the constructive outcome, the depression simply disappears.

How to Deal with Covid Anxiety?

Anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress. It’s a feeling of fear or apprehension about what is to come next. The first day of school, going to a job interview, giving a speech or what will happen if I get infected with Covid, may cause most people to feel fearful and nervous. Anxiety will take you away from the present and you start accepting your imagination that the worst is going to happen while the fact is nothing has happened in reality.

A person jumped from the 50th floor of a building and of course died. After postmortem the cause of death was sudden cardiac arrest because of the fear of death and not the head injury or multiple fractures. Anxiety indeed aggravates any disease and you start suffering what could have been avoided. Anxiety is the first step and then the panic takes over and becomes the biggest killer in this world and not any disease. Why die before death comes?

Perhaps you are aware that healing is a natural process. In the common man’s language the medicines prevent further spread of the disease. Even for treating the fracture, the bones are kept in the right position and immobilised – and the healing is always natural. For healing one needs a strong immunity but anxiety snatches away your immunity power. Your focus must be to build up your immune system and focus to take all the precautions. A healthy diet and regular exercise will boost your immunity. Vitamine C and Zinc are helpful in boosting your immune system. Drinking plenty of water will indirectly dilute the negative effects of Covid as well. Accepting and living in the present is the biggest immunity booster.

Choosing a Career – The Elimination Process

In this ever changing world, there are so many career and business options which add to the confusion of the people. At times, in spite of their best efforts they are unable to decide what exactly to do in their life. In that case it is wise to adopt the elimination process.

Just identify around 10 career or business options which you feel you might like. For each option identify two persons each – the one who has 5 years experience and then one who has 30 years of experience in that line.

Even you can find these characters in some movies which you can explore. Now, put yourself in the role of the first person who has 5 years of experience and then in the role of the second person who has 30 years of experience.

Now ask yourself a question, “Am I happy if I were him today?” If the answer is NO then that option has been eliminated. Likewise explore all the options till you feel like saying YES to a particular option. If you don’t find YES to any option then continue with the elimination process and one day what you truly aspire to do will also appear.

How to convert a hobby into profit?

It is an old saying that love your job and you will never feel tired. Most of the people start their career or business on the advice of parents, teachers, friends or sometimes they even copy someone and then start. Thus most of the people are rarely happy and remain unhappy for the rest of their life. But Today I am going to share with you a very simple process to live a happy and a fulfilling life.

Identify your hobbies. Hobby is the activity which you enjoy in your free time but when you organise that activity and make it constructive to have a valuable outcome then it becomes your passion. Passion might give you happiness but may not give you money to pay your bills. It is essential to convert your passion into compassion which means adding value in the life of others with the same passion. People will pay you money for your product or service only when you add value in their life.

Please focus which of your hobbies when converted into passion and then compassion can add high value to others: adopt that as your business or profession; you will never be short of money and will also lead a very happy and fulfilling life.