How to accelerate in life, slowly?

Hasten slowly are two contrast expressions. The quickest way to accomplish something is to proceed deliberately – means to weigh all the options before arriving at a decision – a balanced decision.

Hasten means to add speed towards the fulfillment of your goals and slowly means contemplating the practical depth on all key areas in the process. The need is; clearly and specifically define all the steps in the structural chain on track of your goal achievement and work on each and every detail on all the key steps, at the same time. This way you gain speed in achieving your goals without any stress or struggle.

The opportunity and the time available for the completion of your projects is limited so you need to save every resource from being wasted. Activities must be performed with a proper balance of urgency and diligence. If tasks are rushed too quickly then mistakes are made and the desired long-term results are not achieved. Work is best done in a state of flow in which one is fully engaged by the task and there is no sense of time passing.

The consistency of gaining depth of each and every practical key step on your journey towards success and saving every precious resource from being wasted is the true expression of Hasten Slowly.

How to build your 100% concentration?

Many seniors keep on telling their juniors to have 100% concentration while working. Parents normally yell at their children to study with full concentration. Is it practically possible to develop concentration as a conscious effort? NO, it is simply neither possible nor practical. The fact is concentration has no existence of its own, it is only a reaction to something.

Why do you want to have concentrate? What is logic? The moment you define your logic to get what you exactly want then your need is defined. Only a well-defined need will lead to full concentration. While playing Tambola everyone is having full concentration to know about the terms and conditions regarding various lines and the houses. While filling up your form to apply for the visa you have full concentration because of your need to go to the country of your choice. You are fully aware that just one mistake and your visa will be rejected.

So if you want to have full concentration during your day-to-day performance then your primary focus must be to define each and every aspect of your need – specific and to the point.

How to keep healthy space with colleagues?

Every senior person will tell his subordinates to maintain distance while dealing with clients or even other members of the team. Even parents tell their daughters to maintain distance while being away on a tour. What exactly do they mean by the word distance? The one-word replacement of the word distance is respect – means behave in a way so that the other person respects you under all circumstances.

The best and the easiest way to earn respect is to develop a helping attitude as the first step – means help people without linking that help with any of your needs and to maintain that respect, never share your weak points which means physical handicaps – physical handicap means something you don’t know which is a must for you to justify your job.

Never share your weaknesses which means emotional handicaps because people will exploit your emotions and thus your respect will be gone. Never share your personal problems as then indirectly you have given them the freedom to interfere in your personal matters. Never open your heart unless you trust the person. And never criticize others as by doing so you are encouraging the other person to think, speak, or act against you. In all three situations, your respect will be minimized in their eyes.

And one more relevant piece of wisdom. Avoid putting demands on them because people don’t feel comfortable to be disturbed time and again. If you have a list of ten demands then give them a list of ten demands at one time only as that way the other person will perceive that as one demand and will be in a better position to organize his day. This way you will be able to maintain distance yet be close with your colleagues.

How to live your 100% Concentration?

Building up your 100% concentration is different than practicing 100% concentration. Many people confuse living 100% concentration all the time. You must have heard people in love saying, “I want to live every moment of my life with you.”
Is it possible to live with any person, subject, or project all 24 hours or throughout your life?” Practically it is not possible. If you are to live with someone, every moment then your life will become hell.

Just imagine a situation – you want to discuss something very important with your senior. When you go to his room he is busy doing something. And he says “Keep on speaking, I am listening”. Practically you are with him for about an hour but are you feeling satisfied? NO. If he stops all of his work and asks you to share your concern. He has given you only 2 minutes but has given you his 100%, you feel satisfied.

The fact is people only want you when they need you and not all the time. You must give your 100% to the person or the project even if it is only for 1 minute. That precisely is the only way to live your 100% concentration.

How to Prioritise your Priorities?

People are facing so many situations every day thus have little time. As a basic principle, you must define your priorities by focusing on the 80:20 rule which states that 80% of your results come from 20% of your goals or the activities. That means the priority focus is only the important effective 20%. But priorities also need to be defined in the right sequence.

The priorities can be well defined in three major categories. The first is Vital which means without which it is not possible to survive even. As a broad understanding, your job or business is vital because you get all the status and living comforts because of this vital only. The second is essential which means these are important for your living and basic needs as well. Your family comes under the broad heading of essential and the third is Desirable which gives you happiness at a personal level. Your hobbies, friends, and social activities come under this category.

The fact is all three Vital, Essential and Desirable are important. These must be lived together on weekly basis but in this sequence of Vital, Essential, and desirable thus that helps you in prioritizing your priorities.

The best management skill one must have

Knowing and then learning the best management skill is the dream of many because otherwise there is a constant fight with the failure leading to frustrations. Without these primary management skills, every other skill is a waste.

A father wanted to fulfill his ambitions through his son. From son’s primary school days he had been telling him time and again to do an MBA before starting his career. Son was feeling irritated and felt management was something complicated.

Some people feel management is something tricky but the fact is it is very simple. Management means Manage Men and T means Time and the one who is managing is the Manager which means Man with Age means experience and R means relevant. The person with the relevant experience.

Now the most relevant management skill which every person must have is punctuality without which no person can succeed in one’s life. The other expression of punctuality is honoring every commitment even if it is with a so called insignificant person. Punctuality must become your working belief and thus honoring your commitment becomes one of your principals.

What to do when people take you for granted?

There are times in life when you feel that your people are taking you for granted thus don’t respect you for your seniority and your wisdom as well. The fact is you want to be friendly with them but still want them to respect your authority.

The question is why do they take you for granted? Simply because they know more and more about your shortcomings and your personal life. Your focus must be to ask them questions about their achievements and their areas of development. Discuss with them their goal in life and help them shape up their career track. Your precise focus is to listen to your team members and respond to their needs.

It is wisdom never to share about your personal life and never share with them your negative points. If your negative points are relevant to your job then on top priority focus to develop self in those areas and convert your negative areas into positive ones and more important – focus to be their leader and not their boss.

Are you using all your strength?

Though many people are using their best but still are unable to use all of their strengths. Are you using all of your strength? Let’s gain clarity on how to make the best use of your strength.

An ambitious entrepreneur and her mentor were walking along a forest path. At some point, they came across a large tree branch on the ground in front of them.  The girl asked her mentor, “If I try, do you think I could move that branch?” Her mentor replied, “I am sure you can if you use all your strength.” The girl tried her best to lift or push the branch, but she was not strong enough and she couldn’t move it. She said, with disappointment, “You were wrong, Sir. I can’t move it.” “Try again with all your strength,” replied her mentor. Again, the girl tried hard to push the branch. She struggled but it did not move. “Sir, I cannot do it,” said the girl. Finally, her mentor said, “Young lady, I advised you to use ‘all your strength’. You didn’t. You didn’t ask for my help.”

Our real strength lies not in independence, but in codependence. No individual person has all the strengths, all the resources, and all the stamina required for the complete blossoming of their vision. To ask for help and support when we need it is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom.

How to get over insult?

Who is the biggest enemy of mankind because once that enemy comes, one has sleepless nights, blood boils with anger and the peace from within is completely shattered and that enemy is an insult but let me ask you a simple question, “Can anybody in the world insult you? Or you yourself are feeling insulted?” The fact is nobody can insult you and because only you yourself feel insulted so only you need to focus on your behavior as that indeed needs to be developed.

Insult indeed is an attack on your ego – your self-respect. EGO means Esteem Gets Offended. Insult basically is the gap between expectations and reality. When you get less than expected then you feel insulted but when you get more than your expectations then you feel loved and respected. Others can only respect you for those qualities which they have experienced with you.

The best way to get over an insult is to live at zero level means no expectations at all. Care for people and they will respect you for all those qualities which they have experienced. The best way to get over an insult is to live without any expectations at all – at zero levels only.

How to practice 100% concentration?

In life, people face so many unmanageable situations which they call problems. One needs 100% concentration to deal with these problems but that doesn’t happen with most people. Every problem has its own response time which can vary from say to even one year or more as well. The fact is before the response time of one problem is over another problem comes which again has its own response time and so on. Thus there is an overlapping of response times. As a result, one is unable to give 100% concentration to any of the problems. So what to do?

The focus must be to reduce the response time to the minimum because if not managed then the response time becomes the tension time. And if the response time is reduced to say one minute or less for every problem situation then there will not be any overlapping at all. The only way to reduce the response time to the minimum is to develop the habit of taking correct and quick decisions – correct as of the first step.

Focus on 10 problems and 10 minutes approach. The method is to keep on writing all of your problems and keep one time fixed as problem-solving time. Tackle all the problems in a row one by one. Because every problem is different so you will gradually develop the habit to make correct and quick decisions. Same way for your meetings in the office, call 10 people at one time only say 11 am and talk to each one – one after another. This way you will be able to reduce your response time to the minimum and at the same time, you will be able to give 100% concentration to each person or the situation.