What is the true meaning of success?

Success means different things to different people. For somebody success means earning millions while for others success means achieving some high position in the society while for still others success simply means sitting next to the Holy river and living a meditative life. What exactly does success mean to you?

It has been observed that most people have no focus to define exactly what they want in their life. While in school their subjects are decided either by their parents or the teachers. When they complete their studies they normally ask their friends, “What should I do in my life?” Job or the business is decided by other people in their life. That precisely is the reason they never feel happiness in their life.

Just focus on you and you only, even without focusing on the resources because the resources can always be generated. Define exactly what you want in your life because this life is yours only. Define your passion and the kind of life you want to live. That precisely will help you decide the success areas you are looking for. And you will find the ultimate happiness in your life.

Secret to uninterrupted productivity

Remaining busy does not establish your productivity. Maybe you are doing unproductive work. There is no point in remaining busy for long hours and producing a little or no outcome. It’s wise to generate big results by investing less time and other resources. But how?

Productivity is directly linked with the outcome and not with performance. For a productive outcome you must be clear about your goals. Remember the old saying that, not failures but low aim is a crime. Have the highest aim and then develop the strategic planning to achieve that. The most important is to define why you want to achieve this goal you have agreed upon. The logic why you want to achieve it will establish your conviction which will add speed to the process of your goal achievement.

Productivity comes through high value work for which you must focus to develop your worth and then add value in the lives of those people who actually need your input. But remember the people who believe in doing multitasking are always least productive. For doing a high value contribution short breaks are a must to rejuvenate yourself.

How to have in-depth learning?

Living in samarpan is the best way to excel in learning. Samarpan means 100% non-judgemental grateful acceptance in what your mentor is helping you learn. The fact is you have decided to learn from the mentor because you don’t have depth on the subject. You have no power to judge or challenge your mentor on that subject.

Sometimes when you are in dark, you might feel that you have been buried but the fact is you have been planted and the seed in you with the nurtured wisdom will just bloom and blossom. The moment you become judgmental your mind is blocked and the learning is restricted thus your further initiative is killed. The tragedy is that it also blocks the mind of the mentor and he will also share only those things which you like to hear, leading to a heavy loss in learning as well.

Remember your trust can move mountains and your doubts can create those as well. Thus the simple but powerful rule is to live in 100% non-judgemental grateful acceptance while learning.

Do you want standard of life or quality of life?

Standard of living, refers to the level of wealth, comfort, material goods, and necessities available to a certain socioeconomic class or geographic area. Standard of life is focused primarily on the physical comforts based on the outside sources where as a person you have no control. Thus the pleasure received keeps on fluctuating because pleasures and sufferings are two sides of the same coin only.

Quality of life is a highly subjective measure of happiness which is an important component of many financial decisions. Factors that play a role in the quality of life vary according to personal preferences, but they often include financial independence, job satisfaction, family life, health, and safety. Quality of life is focused on living the life of your choice while standard of life is based on the life of others around you. Quality of life means you are managing all life situations from the base of bliss from within.

How not to interfere?

The general manager of a company was feeling highly disturbed. He was helping his team members and team members were taking his help as his interference. He said, I don’t know what to do?

I asked him, if you know beforehand that this help of yours will be taken as interference or involvement then how would you feel? He said that will be great.

I told him, there is a secret behind it, who takes the initiative? If the initiative of your help is taken by them then it is almost a sure sign that they will take your help as involvement but if the initiative of your help is taken by you only then there is every possibility that your help is taken as interference.

There is a simple rule to it. Tell them exactly what you can do for them, just make an offer regarding your valuable contribution and then wait for the invitation as their initiative.

The secret on how to listen

Being a good listener helps to boost productivity, build up your confidence and minimizes stress? Like many people, do you also have the habit to respond to what the other person is saying, while listening?

Perhaps, you are not aware that this approach to listening ruins the outcome. The other person is practically confused regarding what you are saying because your message is not synchronizing with what he has said. Does it make sense to you?

There is a powerful hidden message in the word listen only. When you rearrange the letters of the word listen you find the most important quality one must have to listen and that is silent, I repeat SILENT. Silently listen to the whole message first and then only plan your response and feel the miraculous outcome in your renewed relationship.

The secret power of GPS management

GPS means Global Positioning System and nowadays the world map is controlled by the GPS and it gives you the exact location and the direction to reach your well defined destination. The recorded voice guides you to take a third left turn on the next roundabout or to take a U turn after 100 meters and so on. Each and every step is very well directed. Have you ever noticed that if by chance you take a wrong turn, you are not reprimanded or blamed but it restarted the directions from where you were.

And that is the secret power to manage all worldly relationships as well. Let’s feel the difference. While managing the relationships people get angry if the other person does something wrong or unacceptable, they instantly start blaming the other person, reprimanding him and at times even are bent upon to prove that he is wrong as a person. This way the other person is disturbed and loses motivation to do anything further. In addition he is also losing his regards for you.

Let’s learn from the GPS. While managing the relationship – be it with your children or your team members or your clients or any other person, if the person does something wrong or unacceptable then accept the person as it is and redefine the strategic planning from the current step onwards. This way you will be able to maintain harmony in your relationship and then the productivity will be multifold on its own.

Is perfection a must for success in life?

It has been seen that the person who is a perfectionist is rarely happy. Perfection is only possible when you have well defined parameters. Moreover when you focus on perfection then you can feel happy only when the result is declared and that too if the result is positive. It is wise to strive for excellence because on that path your every next moment is better than the previous one and every moment you feel happy as well.

The fact is 100% perfection is not required for each and every activity. For routine activities even 80% quality is acceptable because possibly people don’t have the relevant competence to differentiate between 80% and 100% quality. There is no need to focus on 100% perfection because the last 20% quality needs exhaustive efforts and the outcome is rarely appreciated by anybody. The fact is that they might not have the power to judge as well.

It might be expensive to be a perfectionist and that saved money and energy can be invested to achieve so many other results.

How to make others value you?

An ambitious entrepreneur of a startup said, I talk with my team members and my clients in full confidence, but they don’t value my words. It is so frustrating at times; I don’t know what to do.

I told him, there is a big difference between confidence and conviction. they will value your words only when you talk with them with conviction. Please remember, that conviction comes only when the logic of your expression is clear to you. You must yourself be convinced first about what you say. Your own belief in yourself is the key to conviction.

In that case just one word is enough to strike the deal. You must have experienced that people who lack conviction are normally loud in their expressions which comes off as arrogance and intolerance. Thus, they are normally not accepted by others. Strong convictions precede great actions.

How to establish good system?

What do we mean, by a good system? Let’s first understand a simple process on how to make tea. Define and gather all the ingredients first, that is, tea leaves, sugar, milk, tea masala, tea making pan, gas stove, tea strainer, cups, wash basin and so on. While making tea, if everything you need during the process is within the range of your arms and that too without moving any step, then of course it is a good system. Imagine if everything you need is at a distance from the gas stove then it is a bad system because your precious energy and time are just being wasted in moving around.

Just remember your experience while buying a subway sandwich. Everything you want is within the arms range of the serving executive. You tell him to put around 16 different kinds of salads plus the required sauces. With so much inside, you can not hold the sandwich in your hands and eat so they wrap the prepared sandwich in a paper with a gentle pressure. When you open the wrapper you can easily hold the sandwich in your hands and eat. That’s again a good system. A good system practically means saving your time, energy and every precious resource from being wasted, in the process of achieving your well conceived goals.