How to support the grieving process?

Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that’s important to you. Grief can be described as the intense emotional and physical reaction that an individual experiences following a big loss. The grieving process can take just a few hours or more than a year or sometimes even can continue lifelong.

For a healthy living, the need is to reduce the grieving process to the minimum. The first stage of the grieving process is denial. The person is not prepared to accept the loss so when you meet him then offer your condolences just once only because if you keep on repeating condolences time and again then you are in a way prolonging the grieving process.

Once the loss is acknowledged, then one feels anger, expressing why that happened. Anger is a masking effect and is hiding many of the emotions and pain that one carries. Anger is normally expressed on other people or objects which doesn’t seem relevant at all.

The next stage is bargaining. Had I done this I would have saved the loss and so on but in the process the impact of loss multiplies within which leads to depression. Whereas anger and bargaining can feel very active while depression may be a quiet stage. Gradually one starts experiencing acceptance of the loss. Acceptance doesn’t mean you’ve moved on, past the grief or the loss. It does, however, mean that you’ve accepted it and have come to understand what it means in your life now.

The only way to add speed to the completion of the grieving process is the constructive initiative in the present moment towards the next step for the positive future. Only the constructive strategic planning will keep the person motivated and move beyond the grief.